Analyze This!

Our church has been working through an exciting leadership group this summer. The first few meetings we all had several personality tests we were asked to take so they could tally the results and show us how different we all are, what our strengths and weaknesses and talents are and how those affect the body we are a part of in our church. We did a Church Personality Profile (which was hilarious), a Meyers-Briggs test and a Strengths Finders test.

This has been really interesting for me to learn a little bit more about myself and just what my strengths and talents are. I am not someone who is “down” on myself; I’ve just never felt like I was especially talented at much. These little tests have changed my perspective on why I am the way I am and what I am really great at! (If you haven’t taken the Meyers-Briggs test, click here to do so. It’s fun!)

On the Meyers-Briggs test, I came out as an ENFJ. Here is how this website described my results:

Extraversion (E), Intuition (N), Feeling (F)
Judging (J) (to learn more about that verbiage, click here. Judging doesn’t mean the vernacular like judgmental BTW…)

“ENFJs direct their energy outward. They are gregarious, talkative and assertive. They love people and social gatherings. They are energized by interaction, are expressive and enthusiastic. ENFJs are Intuitive. They are imaginative and deep. Their thought process is abstract and focused on possibilities. They are idealistic and complex people.

ENFJs are Feelers that make decisions with their heart. They are passionate and profoundly empathetic, caring and warm. ENFJs are decisive, organized and structured. They like to complete tasks and they seek closure. ENFJs often plan ahead.”

That was all fun and dandy and made me crack up but what I really liked was this Mothering Styles website I found that talked about what my personality looked like as a Mom!

Sometimes, you just have to ham it up...(this is me and my friend Krista at Cooper's Birthday Party last year)

There have been many times where I have felt like a T-O-T-A-L loser of a mom. But this little write up helped me to celebrate what I am naturally good at and helped me to understand the areas I could use some improvement in. These were pretty spot on for me and I was so surprised!

Of all the things I learned, this was the nicest to see in writing though (and to then show my husband…ahem): “Although she is people-oriented, the ENFJ needs some peace and quiet each day. A walk or lunch by herself can help her re-energize. She can also benefit from opportunities to engage in lively, heart-to-heart discussions with a close friend or group of friends beyond her immediate family.”

But enough about me, what about you? Have you taken a personality profile before? Has it helped you in one of your roles in life? Have you ever thought about how that affects your life?

Burning the Candle at Both Ends

This has been a busy week for the Nevil family! Cooper has been in VBS (Vacation Bible School) at CPC (Chesterfield Presbyterian Church) in west county where our friends go to church. He and his buddy, Nick, have had SUCH a blast. It’s adorable to hear him excitedly tell me about his day each time I pick him up to come home. Their theme is “Go Deep” and the focus of the week is that each of them are God’s sunken treasure. Thursday night at 7 pm the church is doing a recap of their week. It should be really fun! Their theme song for the week is “Our God is a Great Big God”.

I love that Chase has heard the song enough that he can sing it along with Cooper through the day. I miss Cooper and Chase getting to be a part of Children’s worship. I think it is so good for their little souls and so natural for them to sing and laugh with joy in the Lord. I wish our church had worship time for them. (Not that we don’t play worship music and sing at home, but it is different when they can gather with their own “community” and praise God.)

During this time that he’s been at VBS, Chase and I have had a lot of fun together. Yesterday, we went to the Magic House. It has been special for me to have a little time to solely focus on Chase. Although, I don’t feel like it is all that different than normal. If anything, I feel like Chase takes all my attention anyway because he is so high maintenance and Cooper is the one who gets the short end of the stick!

In addition to that, I’m helping out a friend and working full-time watching her 9-month old. This is excellent birth control for me. Not so much for Jeremy. He likes babies way too much.  I need at least one more year before I’ll be ready to even discuss the possibility of more children.

In the mean time, I do enjoy playing with a cute baby girl. She has the cutest outfits on every day, the cutest little hair bows and earrings and bibs. It’s a lot of fun for me to admire her sweetness. Yet, I can’t help but crack up at all the ways she is different from my boys. I remember when they were her age, if they hit their head or did something to hurt themselves accidentally, they would cry pretty loud and dramatically for roughly 20 seconds. Then it was over and done with and they were on to the next adventure. Not so with a little girl. The crying is for more like 20 minutes and then she pouts because she got hurt. She needs cuddling and cooing and reassurance to go back out into the big bad world that just personally injured her. I laugh and laugh about this. I should know better; I mean I AM a girl. I do this too….

I’ve decided that with boys and girls, it isn’t that their is less drama. My boys bring plenty of drama-enough to go around and embarrass the tar out of me. It’s just short lived. 😀 When it’s over, it’s over.

Back to our crazy week. You add meetings and prayer groups and leadership studies on top of that other stuff, and it makes for burning the candle at both ends. I am not complaining though, in fact, I’m kind of loving it! I’m so tired at night that I’m crashing beyond recovery by 8:30 pm. I am just utterly exhausted and yet having so much fun.

I’m so grateful that I get to play like this right now. It’s totally amazing for me. I know it won’t be like this forever, so I’m trying to soak it up while I can. If we don’t have any more babies, full-time work is only 3-4 years away! By then, Jeremy will be done with his degree, Chase will be in Kindergarten and Cooper in …gulp…3rd grade! AHHH!

I’ll take my candle burning years for now. I’m sure they’ll come back around the time Cooper is in high school :D>.